The mother says she is out of control, sneaking out, stealing money, lies.....
The kid says, yeah I do but mom doesn't care...
The mom says, she won't do her homework or anything at home....
The kid says, mom won't help me with homework and I do all the cooking....
Kids lie right? But, do parents lie too? The old saying "actions speak louder than words" comes to mind. We have had her every summer for 10 years. She does not steal things (except food) from us. She picks up after herself All the time. She cleans her bathroom every weekend. I just don't know who to believe. She did lie in the beginning, and we really worked with her on that. But from day one, she knew the rules, and understood that there would be consequences for her actions. It only took a few "to your room now!!" (she hated being alone as a child) and we pretty much never had a problem after that. I'm not saying she is perfect. She has almost no manners, doesn't say please and thank you, doesn't talk when spoken to, But, could that be from her environment? Could that be from lack of parenting? I certainly don't want to be one of those step-parents who blames everything on the "other" parent, but..... Time will tell I guess. We are still in the honeymoon phase, I know. We are guarded, watching her everystep, guiding her every move. Waiting.....
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